“I think you still love me, but we can’t escape the fact that I’m not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So I’m not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. I’m not angry, either. I should be, but I’m not. I just feel pain. A lot of pain. I thought I could imagine how much this would hurt, but I was wrong.”
― Haruki Murakami, “South of the Border, West of the Sun”
Pain is a word we use to define a wide range of feelings or sensations. To me, it’s a synonym for taste, although, taste is yet not a feeling.
Pain can be divided into two wide categories: Physical pain and Mental/Psychological pain. But as we can see, both of these have their distinct flavor and feel. Perhaps the most common trait among both of these types is that they “Hurt”, otherwise, both are entirely different.
If we look at the “Physical pain”, we can see that it can still be divided into many other forms, categorized on the basis of the “source”, “cause”, or the “reason” of this pain. All these terms like burn, scratch, bruise, cut, slit, punch, push, hit, etc, create “Pain”, but on further closer look, we see that all of them create pain of a different kind. A pin prick certainly doesn’t create the pain we get if we accidentally touch a hot iron. Each pain is unique, just like flavors of every fruit is different. Naming all these pains differently might have created even more confusions, that’s why they find it easy to term it generally as “Pain”.
Then, there’s that mental or psychological pain, almost all of us are familiar with. Just like physical pain I described above, this pain too, has many sub-categories depending on the type of the source, reason or cause. If we lose someone we love, we feel pain, if someone breaks a commitment with us, we feel hurt, and so on.
Now what? If pain is something that you “experience”, (if “suffer” is a negative term,) then it must be experienced the way you experience other things in life. I’m not preaching sadism or masochism here, but we should not let our pains become our sufferings…
When I wrote all of this, it was March 2010, almost 2 years back… But Now I thought I should publish it.